A
              Father's Day Thought
              Bob Hansel
            Every
                time Father's Day comes around I certainly think about my own
                biological father but
                              my mind always turns quickly
                  to think of the "Our Father," that simple and beautiful
                prayer of Jesus. ... 
            I
                know that there are people who think that the "Our Father" is a sexist prayer that ought to be
                    edited in some way. I've heard of congregations that say, "Our
                  Father/Mother who art in heaven. That
                seems to me, however well-intentioned, to be clumsy and unattractive.
                I doubt it will
                  catch on very many places. 
            Some
                have suggested considering "Our
                        heavenly parent" but that, I think, depersonalizes
                        the whole thing and it is the very intimacy of the address
                        that, to me,
                    is the power of the prayer.
            I
                think, we need to remember that the gender isn't really so important.
                We're not talking here about scientific fact. We're talking about
                a relationship. 
            Whether
                father or mother, the point that Jesus is getting at is that at the heart or core of everything is
                  a power and presence more like the devotion of a loving parent's
                  heart toward a beloved child than anything else we can possibly
                  imagine.
            The
                problem, of course, is that positive poetry can be smashed by
                negative reality. The word "father" can make us think
                - depending on our experience of our own parent - of anything
                from an oriental despot to a drunken bum.
            Still,
                that mental connection doesn't invalidate the insight into God's
                essential
                  nature. God is most like the very best that an earthly father
                  can possibly be, whether or not we happened to be blessed with
                  that particular father within our own nuclear family.
            I
                think there are several important implications to our being invited
                by Jesus to think about and address the Creator of all the worlds
                as "Our Father":
           
            
               1.
                  It takes God out of the "vague oblong blur" category
                  and puts us at least on the person-to-person level of acquaintance.
               
    2. It helps us understand and truly believe the rather astonishing reality
        that we are beloved children and, ultimately, heirs of all that is or
        ever will be.
               
    3. Fatherhood and family implies at least the possibility of siblings-sisters
        and brothers who are equally beloved and precious in God's eyes-so that,
        while our relationship to God can be personal, it can never be private.
        We are our brother's keeper if we really understand all persons
        to be members, along with us, of God's family.
            
            
              Parent,
                  child, brother, sister-very ordinary common words, but in them
              there are essential clues about the Christian Gospel. 
              To
                  acknowledge God as "Our Father" is to accept God's
                  love for ourselves, but just as importantly, to accept the
                  responsibility to be
                a sister or brother to every other human being. 
              
                Written
                  for the June 16, 2002, issue of THE CHRONICLE,  the
                  newsletter of Calvary Episcopal Church, Memphis, Tennessee.