Cultivating 
                  a Quiet Mind: 
                  Questions and Answers About the Practice of Meditation 
                   
                  by Mark W. Muesse 
                   
                  The 
                  following questions and responses are presented for the better 
                  understanding of meditation. Familiarity with meditation's guiding 
                  principles and techniques can be a first step to beginning a 
                  practice. Through meditation, many people are able to connect 
                  with their true self and better communicate with the sacred. 
                  
 
                    The world's major religious traditions-Christianity, Islam, 
                    Buddhism, Hinduism, Daoism, and Judaism-all teach practices 
                    that might be called meditation. Not all traditions refer 
                    to these disciplines as "meditation," but they all 
                    recommend some form of calming the mind and body to gain insight 
                    and wisdom or to communicate with the god. "Be still," 
                    writes the Psalmist, "and know that I am God" (Ps. 
                    46: 10).  
                  Not 
                    all religions emphasize these practices as strongly as others. 
                    Buddhism and Hinduism are most frequently associated with 
                    meditation because these traditions feature this discipline 
                    more prominently than do traditions such as Christianity, 
                    which tends to stress worship, doctrine, and social action. 
                    Yet deep within the contemplative and mystical dimensions 
                    of Christianity and other western traditions are meditative 
                    disciplines similar to those taught in Asian religions. Christian 
                    mystics such as St. John of the Cross and Meister Eckhart 
                    refer to practices akin to the mindfulness practices of the 
                    Buddha. Father Thomas Keating, more recently, has developed 
                    the method of "centering prayer," a meditative practice 
                    rooted in the mystical Christian classic, The Cloud of Unknowing. 
                    But theologians such as these are not extensively celebrated 
                    and studied in the institutional churches. This is especially 
                    true in Protestantism, which has so often made spirituality 
                    a matter of belief rather than experience. Finding resources 
                    on meditation in the Christian traditions, therefore, is not 
                    as easy as finding them in the Hindu or Buddhist traditions. 
                   
                    We seem to hear more these days about meditation and spirituality. 
                    Why is that? 
                  Many 
                    persons who have grown up in the indigenous traditions of 
                    the west-Christianity, Judaism, liberal secular humanism-say 
                    they feel their native religious perspective has become too 
                    concerned with matters of theology, doctrine, and institution 
                    and has neglected to attend to matters of the heart and religious 
                    experience, the essence of spirituality. There is a growing 
                    interest among many sensitive persons in deepening their interior 
                    lives in ways that doctrine and religious institutions as 
                    such cannot. This desire is perhaps the central reason for 
                    the growing interest in meditative practice. Meditation is 
                    not intrinsically related to religious doctrine or institutions. 
                    It is a practice that is "beyond belief," one concerned 
                    with the experiential core of spirituality. Hence, one may 
                    practice meditation regardless of one's particular religious 
                    convictions. 
                  What 
                    is it about modern life that drives people to seek refuge 
                    in spiritual disciplines like meditation? 
                  Modern 
                    life is not especially conducive to personal and communal 
                    wholeness. Innumerable things compete for our attention, driving 
                    us in dozens of directions at once. We often experience our 
                    lives as fragmented, over-stimulated, and restless. Most of 
                    our common methods for gaining relief from the stresses of 
                    modern life-such as entertainments and alcohol-tend only to 
                    intensify the tensions. Increasingly, people are discovering 
                    that they need sanctuaries of quiet and calm and practices 
                    for strengthening their inner lives. There are not many places 
                    to find these things other than the world's spiritual disciplines. 
                     
                  But 
                    is meditation really a spiritual discipline? Isn't it just 
                    a form of stress reduction and relaxation? 
                  In 
                    a culture that tends to medicalize and psychologize almost 
                    every facet of life, it is not surprising to find a spiritual 
                    discipline such a meditation marketed as a form of stress 
                    reduction or as a relaxation technique. Such an effort, of 
                    course, is a way of trying to remove the modern stigma of 
                    "religion" from meditation. Meditation is, to be 
                    sure, a form of stress reduction. Those who practice meditation 
                    will often discover their levels of stress diminishing. But 
                    stress reduction and relaxation are only by-products of the 
                    practice; they are not its principal purpose or aim. Meditation 
                    is a discipline for gaining awareness, or what many traditions 
                    call mindfulness. Relaxation assists in the process of cultivating 
                    mindfulness, but relaxation is not the goal. Indeed, the development 
                    of mindfulness may initially exacerbate one's feelings of 
                    stress and tension, because it involves being silent and attending 
                    to one's experience. Paying attention to one's inner self 
                    may stir up unpleasant memories and emotions; that is one 
                    of the reasons most persons neglect their interior selves. 
                     
                  What 
                    are some other misconceptions about meditation? 
                  Just 
                    as many assume that meditation is essentially a technique 
                    for relaxation, they assume that the practice is easy. It 
                    isn't. Many beginning students get discouraged with meditation 
                    and choose not to continue after a little bit of experience. 
                    Usually, they give up on the practice because they believed 
                    that meditation would be an easy and relaxing thing to do. 
                    In order to realize the deepest benefits of this discipline, 
                    one must practice with commitment, diligence, effort, and 
                    courage. Yet it is heartening to realize that meditation actually 
                    helps us to develop commitment, diligence, effort, and courage. 
                  Just 
                    as some might think meditation is easy, others seem to hold 
                    the idea that it is too difficult. This attitude seems to 
                    prevail in Asia where meditation is more commonly practiced. 
                    Some apparently think that meditation takes a particular talent 
                    or a special quality of holiness. While it may be true that 
                    some persons have a natural affinity or aptitude for meditation 
                    practice, it is more accurate to think of meditation as a 
                    skill rather than a talent. As a skill, meditation can be 
                    learned. And, like any skill, it must be cultivated through 
                    consistent practice. 
                  Many 
                    persons think that meditation is a technique for producing 
                    altered states of consciousness or extraordinary experiences. 
                    They believe the purpose of meditating is to have a trancelike 
                    state or to eliminate all thoughts from one's mind or to become 
                    one with the universe. But in actuality, meditation is not 
                    about having any particular kinds of experiences. One may 
                    indeed experience a deep sense of connectedness to the world 
                    or even to God; one may have profound and creative thoughts; 
                    one may even experience feeling out of one's body. Any kind 
                    of experience is possible during meditation. But meditation 
                    is not oriented toward having particular kinds of experiences. 
                    Rather, meditation is concerned with how we relate to all 
                    our experiences, not about inducing specific sorts of experiences. 
                    In essence, meditating teaches awareness of whatever happens 
                    and allowing our experiences to come and go without judgment. 
                    In this sense, meditation is profoundly ordinary. There is 
                    nothing extraordinary or exotic about it. 
                  Finally, 
                    another common misconception is that meditation is an escape 
                    from reality, that those who practice this discipline find 
                    life too difficult and hence seek refuge in some narcissistic 
                    haven shut off from the rest of the world. My experience with 
                    meditation is that just the opposite is true. Rather than 
                    being an escape from reality, meditation is more of an escape 
                    into reality. Consider how most of us live our lives most 
                    of the time. Usually, we are not present to the world as it 
                    is or to our experience of the world. We live our lives according 
                    to routine and habit; we are slaves to clocks, deadlines, 
                    and schedules; we impose our beliefs and preconceptions on 
                    the world. We don't so much relate to the world as we relate 
                    to our ideas about the way the world is or should be. This 
                    is not living in reality. Meditation, on the other hand, teaches 
                    one to be aware of the present place and moment, whatever 
                    they are. Meditation is more like an escape from the unreality 
                    of everyday routine life. 
                  Okay, 
                    this is a lot about what meditation isn't. Say more about 
                    what meditation is. 
                  In 
                    good apophatic fashion, it may be easier to express what meditation 
                    is not rather than what it is. Like many things spiritual, 
                    meditation is best grasped experientially, not descriptively. 
                    I therefore discourage beginning students from reading a lot 
                    about meditation. All too often, reading about meditation 
                    becomes a substitute for meditating, which is like the difference 
                    between reading a recipe for apple pie and eating a slice 
                    of apple pie. 
                  Yet 
                    despite this limitation, I can say some things about what 
                    meditation is and about the benefits it can confer. Already 
                    I have indicated that meditation is a discipline for stilling 
                    the mind and body to develop greater awareness of and insight 
                    into the nature of the world and self. I can add that over 
                    time meditation trains us to be more open to and receptive 
                    of our life's experiences. It nurtures in us the qualities 
                    of equanimity and compassion. It teaches us the skill of letting 
                    go. Ultimately, according to some practitioners, meditation 
                    is a way to end suffering. 
                  How 
                    do I get started? Do I need a teacher? 
                  In 
                    what follows, I will describe the fundamental aspects of insight 
                    meditation practice, the discipline first taught by the Buddha 
                    2,500 years ago. Ideally, one should learn the practice in 
                    a setting where one has access to a flesh-and-blood teacher. 
                    But not all of us have such opportunities, and so trying meditation 
                    on your own with the help of the written word is a good substitute. 
                    Of course, your practice will be enhanced if your ever attend 
                    a retreat or speak to an experienced teacher. But there is 
                    no need to wait until such an opportunity arises for you to 
                    begin this path toward greater awareness. 
                  First, 
                    find a suitable place and time. The place should be quiet 
                    and calming, free from distractions and interruptions. The 
                    time should be what works best for you. Perhaps it is the 
                    early morning, just after you rise; perhaps it is when you 
                    return home from work. Choose a time during which you are 
                    not likely to be called away from your practice or lulled 
                    to sleep by drowsiness. Initially, try to set aside ten or 
                    fifteen minutes for your practice. As you develop your discipline, 
                    you may wish to increase your practice time to forty-five 
                    minutes to an hour. 
                  Is 
                    there a particular posture? 
                  Usually, 
                    one engages in meditation while sitting. In the Buddhist tradition, 
                    meditation is commonly referred to as "sitting practice" 
                    or simply "sitting." But meditation can be practiced 
                    standing up, walking, or lying down. To learn the basics of 
                    the discipline, it is best to start with sitting. Since it 
                    is necessary to still the body in order to still the mind, 
                    one must assume a stable, stationary position. And since one 
                    will try to avoid movement, it is necessary to find a comfortable 
                    posture. Sitting works well on both counts. 
                  You 
                    can sit on the floor or in a chair. For most persons, sitting 
                    on the floor requires a cushion to be comfortable. A traditional 
                    meditation cushion, such as a Japanese zafu or a Tibetan gomden, 
                    works well, but so does a pillow or sofa cushion if it allows 
                    sufficient height while sitting. A chair is especially good 
                    for those who finding floor sitting to be difficult or painful. 
                    In both modes-cushion or chair-it is important to sit up straight 
                    without external support for the back. Do not rest against 
                    a wall if you are seated on the cushion or against the back 
                    of chair if you choose that approach. Maintaining a straight 
                    back without external support allows one to keep the sitting 
                    posture longer without fatigue. To keep the back in proper 
                    alignment, it may help to imagine a string attached to the 
                    crown of the skull gently pulling the head upwards toward 
                    the ceiling, allowing the back to elongate. 
                  The 
                    legs and hands may be placed in a variety of positions. If 
                    you use a chair, both feet should rest flat on the floor. 
                    If you use a cushion to sit on the floor, the legs may be 
                    crossed several ways. Many teachers prefer the traditional 
                    "full lotus" position, with the feet placed on the 
                    top of the opposite thighs, but it is hard posture to hold, 
                    especially for beginners. The "half lotus," in which 
                    one foot is placed on the top of the opposite thigh and the 
                    other foot tucked beneath the opposite thigh, is easier, but 
                    it too may prove uncomfortable for beginners. The "Burmese" 
                    position may be best for western practitioners. It consists 
                    of crossing the legs and tucking the feet under the opposite 
                    thighs. Shifting the pelvis slightly forward on the cushion, 
                    creating a gentle curve in the small of the back, helps to 
                    make this posture more stable and comfortable. 
                  The 
                    hands may be placed on the knees or kept on the lap, one hand 
                    on top of the other. Choose the position you find most comfortable. 
                  The 
                    mouth should be closed and the tongue resting on the roof 
                    of the mouth. The eyes, too, should be shut, at least as one 
                    begins to learn the practice. This reduces visual stimulation 
                    and helps to facilitate concentration. As one gains experience, 
                    it is possible to meditate with eyes partially open, and focused 
                    on a place on the floor about six feet away. 
                  What 
                    am I supposed to do with my mind? 
                  There 
                    are many different styles of meditation; practitioners of 
                    each of them may answer this question differently. Some practices 
                    entail visualizing certain images, some encourage silently 
                    repeating a syllable or phrase (mantra), some involve gazing 
                    at a candle or some other object. All of these activities 
                    essentially serve to focus and affix one's attention for the 
                    purpose of cultivating concentration.  
                  Perhaps 
                    the best anchor of attention for beginning practitioners is 
                    the breath. The breath is a simple focus, requires no additional 
                    accoutrements, and is omnipresent. Rarely, however, do we 
                    ever attend to it. Yet, the breath has much to teach us about 
                    ourselves and the nature of reality.  
                  As 
                    you settle into a meditative posture, begin to relax and pay 
                    attention to your breathing as the breath moves in and out 
                    of the body. There are two convenient locations on which one 
                    can place the awareness: the nostrils and the diaphragm. Choose 
                    the place at which the sensation of breathing seems most prominent. 
                    If you focus on the diaphragm, try to be conscious of the 
                    way the breath rises and falls as the belly expands and contracts. 
                    If you select the nostrils, attend to the sensation of the 
                    air as it moves in and out of your nose. Focusing awareness 
                    on the rhythms of the breath almost automatically aids in 
                    relaxation. Keep your attention on the breath as best you 
                    can. You need only be aware of one inhalation or exhalation 
                    at a time. 
                  You 
                    will discover, if you are paying attention to the workings 
                    of your own mind, that you will not be able to stay mindful 
                    of the breath for very long. Try as we might, unbidden thoughts, 
                    feelings, and sensations begin to intrude. That is fine and 
                    to be expected. The goal of meditation is not to eliminate 
                    these intrusions but to be aware of them. When you become 
                    aware of a thought or sensation, take note of it. You might 
                    simply say silently to yourself "thinking" or "tingling" 
                    or "hearing" or whatever term seems appropriate 
                    to your experience. Keep it simple, though; don't become overly 
                    analytical. The point is simply to take note of experience 
                    as it is happening. When you have become conscious of a thought 
                    or sensation, let it go. Gently return attention back to the 
                    breath and be present to your breathing again. When another 
                    thought or sensation arises, note it and return to the breath. 
                  If 
                    you allow yourself to get absorbed into your thoughts, it 
                    may take a long time before your realize you are thinking. 
                    One moment you are focused on your breath, then suddenly you 
                    waken from your reverie twenty minutes later to discover you 
                    been fantasizing about your vacation in Cincinnati. That's 
                    the way the mind works. Don't become judgmental about that 
                    process; that only stimulates further thinking. No matter 
                    how long it takes for you become aware of your thoughts, simply 
                    recognize that you've been thinking and return attention to 
                    the breath. 
                  This 
                    is the basic technique for strengthening concentration. It 
                    is a simple practice, but it is not an easy practice. Initially, 
                    one will find it hard to stay focused on the breath. Don't 
                    be discouraged. The mind has been conditioned your entire 
                    life to resist discipline. It has to be gently but firmly 
                    trained to stay attentive. Don't expect instant and dramatic 
                    results. The benefits of meditation are cumulative and gradual. 
                    Over time, you will recognize that your mind responds to training. 
                    Increasingly, your concentrative powers are sharpened and 
                    you find it easier to remain focused on the object of your 
                    attention. 
                  But 
                    the value of meditation practice is even more than just enhanced 
                    capacities for concentration and awareness. The practice gradually 
                    inculcates a different and wiser perspective on our experience. 
                    By learning to become aware of our thoughts, feelings, and 
                    sensations and them letting them go, we learn the invaluable 
                    discipline of non-attachment. One of the central insights 
                    of the Buddhism is the intrinsic connection between suffering 
                    and attachment. Unskillfully clinging to the items of our 
                    experiences-whether other persons, ambitions, goals, ideals, 
                    feelings, or beliefs-causes us greatly to increase our suffering 
                    and the suffering of others. Reality is simply not structured 
                    to sustain our attachments. Nothing is immune to the flux 
                    of change, and attempting to relate to anything as if it were 
                    permanent or absolute is bound to cause us sorrow. Our greatest 
                    attachment, perhaps, is to our very notion of self, our illusion 
                    that there is something substantial and permanent about who 
                    we are. Even this belief-indeed, especially this belief-must 
                    be released. By learning that it is not necessary to identify 
                    with any thought, feeling, or sensation, we increase our ability 
                    not to cling to or grasp at the elements of our life's experience. 
                     
                  Buddhists 
                    liken the mind in its natural state and function to a clear 
                    blue sky. The thoughts and sensations we experience they compare 
                    to clouds. As long as those images, thoughts, and feelings 
                    are allowed to drift through the mind like clouds on a blue 
                    day, we maintain clarity and wisdom. But when we begin to 
                    cling, to hold on to that which is fundamentally elusive, 
                    our minds become cloudy, unable to see the world and our lives 
                    in it as they truly are. Our minds become so filled with opinions 
                    and beliefs, our entire experience is filtered through them, 
                    distorting our understanding of what really is. 
                  Are 
                    there any advanced techniques for mindfulness practice? 
                  I've 
                    described the basic practice of insight meditation. There 
                    are, of course, other techniques and practices that can be 
                    profitably added to this fundamental discipline. But one should 
                    gain a secure grounding in the rudiments of the discipline 
                    before augmenting it. When it is appropriate to do so, I recommend 
                    that aspiring meditators learn walking meditation practice, 
                    to supplement sitting practice, and metta, or loving kindness, 
                    meditation, which enhances our capacities for compassion. 
                  Since 
                    it beyond my limitations here to detail these practices, let 
                    me recommend that you consult a basic meditation instruction 
                    manual. I've listed some of the best below. 
                  How 
                    do I incorporate meditation into the rest of my life? 
                  Meditation 
                    is for the purpose of conscious living, not for having interesting 
                    experiences while seated on your ass. Meditation is a discipline 
                    for learning mindfulness and gaining insight for the rest 
                    of life. It means very little if we leave the cushion and 
                    return to our slovenly habits of mindless living. 
                  Fortunately, 
                    the benefits of the practice gradually manifest themselves 
                    throughout our lives with little effort as long as we remain 
                    committed to the discipline. The hard work is making a place 
                    in your life for meditation. Once you start to practice meditation, 
                    you will discover dozens of excellent reasons not to meditate. 
                    Suddenly, doing the laundry and mowing the grass seem far 
                    more interesting and more important than sitting to train 
                    the mind. I have often found it helpful to practice with a 
                    group. Group practice provides an external structure that 
                    fosters discipline. 
                  It 
                    is not always possible, however, to meditate with a group. 
                    Commit yourself to meditate at particular time every day. 
                    Don't be overly ambitious. Start with a goal that is reasonable. 
                    If you can only sit mindfully for five minutes, begin with 
                    that. With practice, your length of meditation can increase 
                    to forty-five minutes or an hour. You will discover that the 
                    benefits of meditation increase proportionally with the regularity 
                    and length of your practice. But begin modestly, with humble 
                    expectations.  
                  What 
                    books are available if I wish to pursue this practice? 
                  It 
                    is often a temptation simply to read about meditation rather 
                    than pursuing the practice. Don't spend too much time with 
                    books; their value is limited. A few good texts, however, 
                    will be of benefit, especially in the beginning stages of 
                    practices. Here is a list of some of the best English books 
                    that I have found. 
                  Joseph 
                    Goldstein. Insight Meditation: The Practice of Freedom. 
                    Boston and London: Shambhala, 1994. 
                  Henepola 
                    Gunaratana. Mindfulness in Plain English. Boston: Wisdom 
                    Books, 1991. 
                     
                    Perhaps the clearest and most concrete explanations of 
                    Insight meditation available. 
                   
                    _______.Eight Mindful Steps to Happiness: Walking the Buddha's 
                    Path. Boston: Wisdom Publications, 2001. 
                  A 
                    fitting sequel to Mindfulness in Plain English. Read Mindfulness 
                    first. 
                  Thich 
                    Nhat Hanh. The Miracle of Mindfulness: A Manual on Meditation. 
                    Boston: Beacon Press, 1976. 
                     
                    Written by a Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk, this is an excellent 
                    introduction to mindfulness meditation. 
                  Jack 
                    Kornfield. A Path with Heart: A Guide through the Perils 
                    and Promises of Spiritual Life. New York: Bantam Books, 
                    1993. 
                     
                    A well-written meditation manual by an American Vipassana 
                    master. 
                  Walpola 
                    Rahula. What the Buddha Taught. New York: Grove Press, 
                    1959. 
                     
                    A classic introduction to the teachings of the Buddha according 
                    to a prominent Theravadin monk. 
                  Larry 
                    Rosenberg. Breath by Breath: The Liberating Practice 
                    of Insight Meditation. Boston: Shambhala, 1999. 
                  Sharon 
                    Salzberg. Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness. 
                    Boston and London: Shambhala, 1995. 
                     
                    An excellent introduction to metta meditation, a practice 
                    to cultivate compassion. 
                  Chögyam 
                    Trungpa. Meditation in Action. Berkeley: Shambhala, 
                    1969. 
                     
                  ©2004 
                    Mark Muesse 
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